Saturday, December 26, 2009

New and FINAL Blog!

This was always the temporary blog...the new one is:

www.thehubbartsadopt.com

Email me for the user ID and password! :-)

schubbart@mac.com

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

A few photos for your patience



WE ARE HOME!!!!!

We are so thrilled to finally be home in Walnut Creek!!!

Our drive from Orange County was a little bit challenging, but it was completely worth it to walk in the door and see a gorgeous wreath on the door from my wonderful friends Tara and Kristina, and a little Christmas tree that our amazing neighbors who were taking care of Coco put up!!! We are so blessed with the people in our lives.

The twins had a tough night sleeping because of the journey, but we are hopeful after a normal day of rest and eating, they will sleep normally tonight.

MORE GOOD NEWS: We took the babies to the pediatrician again and Carmel has gained over a pound (1lb 2oz) since her discharge! She is 5lbs 5oz! Michael, the big guy, has gained 1lb 5oz since discharge, for a weight of 7lbs 10oz! They are growing so well. But Michael has a little bit of a cold. No more parties for him for a while. :-)

Thursday, December 17, 2009

LOL

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

YUMMM- north Carolina barbecue

We've eaten here two days in a row! It's just amazing!

Www.clydecooperbbq.com

I love when they get in the same position!

Monday, December 14, 2009

Oh my goodness...a light at the end of the looong tunnel

We were called today by our agency and they told us to go ahead and make our flights home for Thursday.  FINALLY!!!!  We know when we are coming back to California!!! WHEE!

For those of you wondering about our holiday plans (and yes we are rather ambitious and insane), we are actually going to fly directly to Orange County to see Damon's brother and wife and kids...especially our new 6 month old niece Grace who we haven't even met yet!!  We plan on going home to Walnut Creek on Monday December 21.  We will have officially been away from home for over 3 weeks; even longer then when we got married!!  We are both so homesick and can't wait to go home!

Thanks again for all of your support and prayers!  Here is a little video to tie you over until we get home :-)

Saturday, December 12, 2009

Happy Birthday GongGong!

It is GongGong William's birthday. He had the best birthday presents - visiting with his new grandson and granddaughter this past week.  :-)

Happy Saturday

Happy Saturday!  Today has been like every other day - wake up, feed a baby or two, diaper change or two, sleep.  Wake up, feed a baby or two, diaper change or two, eat.  Watch TV.  Feed a baby, diaper change, more TV.  Another feeding, diaper change, nap?  Its so exciting in Hubbart land these days!!  The babies are doing great.  Michael really seems to be packing on the weight.  Carmel still seems to tiny compared to him, but she is really eating well too!  Just when we think they can't get any cuter, they do!!

We are both a bit homesick and can't wait to get back home.  Our little condo in Walnut Creek never seemed so huge and far away, we really miss our family and friends.  And we still have a ways to go.  Don't forget about us!!! :-P

Maybe I've also been slacking in my pictures too, so here are a couple for ya:

Michael during diaper change, Day 5...he's getting a tummy!!  :-)


On our way to the agency to sign paperwork, day 9




me and Carmel Day 10 (her beautiful BIG eyes!!)

We love the comments - keep em coming! 

Mike is ready for some grub!!

Thursday, December 10, 2009

and finally - an update

The relinquishment paperwork was signed yesterday, which means the earliest we can leave is a week from today.   North Carolina has a 7 day period to retract the relinquishment and we are basically required to stay in the state until that period is expired.  During this 7 day period, there is paperwork that goes back and forth between NC and California.  This *can* take longer then the 7 days....we sure are hoping that isn't the case with us!!!!

The babies are doing great.  We went to the doctor on Monday morning....our first driving adventure with the babies!!  It was definitely an adventure and we now know that we need to plan a lot better. lol.  On that day Michael had already gained 2 oz since discharge day on Friday!!  Little Carmel also gained 1/2 oz.  The doctor said both babies continue to be in good health.  They really are such a joy and blessing.

As you can see my parents are in town!  YAY!  My mom has been such a great help with the nighttime feedings - my worst part!  I always knew I was a sleeper, but now that I've experienced newborn twins, there is no doubt that I need some sleep deprivation conditioning.  I'm sure these little ones will continue to train me.  :-)

So for the next 7 days we'll still be holed up in our extended stay hotel.finding ways to entertain ourselves.  We might drive around some of the local campuses and while my parents are in town, Damon hopes to head to a UNC or NC State basketball game. We are dtermined to make the best of our extended stay!!

I'll continue to update with pictures and vidoes of the little ones. We can't wait for you all to meet them!

Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Monday, December 7, 2009

Michael meets his popo

Michael don't hit your sister!!!

lol

Leaving for the pediatrician

Isn't it funny they are in the exact same pose? I didn't do that!!

Sunday, December 6, 2009

I know we haven't posted in a bit

We have quite a few updates.

First of all - Friday, discharge day.  Was much loooonger then we anticipated.  Although nothing has really gone as anticipated this trip!  By the time we got home we were super pooped.  A little story for you.  My mom had asked a while ago if she could give red envelopes to the bmom and bdad for good luck for the babies.  Well on discharge day, we were right in the middle of giving the 2 red envelopes to them when my mom calls!  bdad says - I would love to talk to her and congratulate her on her first grandchildre.  So they did.  It was special for them and my mom.  My mom sent me an email that she wanted me to share:
"My thoughts of gratitude:
Dear Stephanie and Damon,

My eyes were filled with grateful tears as (bdad) congratulated me as Grandma.  I was so touched by his sincerity.  I hope that I were successful in conveying to him that we will take good care of the babies, and we will help in bring them up to be good persons.  We will nurture them and love them.  I was also so moved by the conversation with the birthmon.  She is so selfless and loving that she deserves the highest respect.  May God richly bless them and thier family.

Love to you all! PoPo(grandma,婆婆) Lydia"

The past two days have definitely been adventure filled.  The days are going well and the nights are, um interesting nonetheless.  Carmel is so sweet and sleeps like an angel.  She squirms and opens her eyes around 1/2 hour before she is ready to feed.  She coos and squeaks in her sleep every now and again.  Michael on the other hand, is extremely active at night, kicking, squirming and crying.  The minute he wakes up he is ready to eat and he takes more work to get down to sleep. The sleep deprivation has begun!!  They are both eating very well and the diapers are just great (ha!).  We sure get to see their personalities now they are finally ours full-time. It still amazes me that they are ours.  They are so beautiful and loving.

Its 3:45 EST and we took the babies on their first outing in their new double stroller!! I'll posted a picture below.  We went downstairs all the way to the business center so the maid could clean the room.  lol

I did some video yesterday I thought you all would enjoy:



As always thank you all for your love and support.  We are really hoping for bmom to be discharged tomorrow, but we are still not certain of her condition and certainly do not want her released earlier then necessary.  But, we are ready to get back to our lives.  We'll keep you posted tomorrow.  Please continue to pray for her and for us as we move towards more of the unknown.

Babies first ride in the stroller

Saturday, December 5, 2009

1st morning at the hotel

They are thinking - yay, we made it with the rookies!! Yea they do
face each other most of the time, and we tend to switch sides too.
It's nice to see them in the same crib :-)

Friday, December 4, 2009

We're "home"!

Is this really how it works, we just leave with them?? Where is my
nurse to mix Melly's special formula? Who is going to check their
vital signs every day or just check any little noise, squeak or
breath? Eek!

Damon and I have basically decided we are sleeping in shifts, since we
both don't feel comfortable sleeping at the same time. Is this why
people say we won't ever sleep again??

They are so beautiful and we are so blessed. I am sometimes still in
disbelief the past week even happened. Bmom is in a regular room as
she recovers from her major surgery. Tentative discussions of release
have mentioned Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday.

I'm exhausted from the stress of the week but can't sleep.

Michaels car seat

Car seat!!

Seriously?!?

Friday!

Good morning, here is your long udpate! :-)

It's 8am on the East Coast for what we believe is our last morning to sleep in! We were told yesterday we would be able to bring the babies to the hotel today. Our plan is to run some more errands, head to the hospital, have lunch with birthparents and bring them back!! Whee!

We hung out with the birthfamily for a significant amount of time in her new room last night. She asked us if she see the babies.  This is not only common in open adoption its encouraged. We knew that she deserved it and had no problem with it. She said after everything she had been through she wanted to see that they were perfect. Both Damon and I handed each of the babies to her and let her hold each of them for a little while. She thanked us profusely, she is just so awesome and she kept wanting to make sure it was okay with us. She would continue to refer to them as ours.  She was so happy to see how healthy and perfect they are. It was a very special moment for us and for her. I'm sure after we left it was emotional for her.

The status on us coming home continues to be up in the air. Our agency has informed us that she needs to be medically discharged for her to sign the proper relinquishment paperwork. At that point, the paperwork must be processed, then sent to California, then sent back to NC for us to leave the state. It could be an additional 5-7 days from when she signs. We are slightly discouraged by this - Damon is pretty stressed that he needs to get back to work; and of course the expenses of staying out here so long.

We are staying positive though and our excited for the babies to come to the hotel and be full time parents. Bmom has really pulled through and we are hopeful that she will get well fast!!! Keep praying for her!

Just for reading all that - how about a little video that I tempted you with yesterday?





Thursday, December 3, 2009

Good news!!

Bmom was moved out of ICU!!! Yay!

Please continue to keep her in your prayers for a speedy recovery.

Will update more details tonight.

I love that they face each other

Raise your hand if you are Sure!

Here is a morning goodie for you

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

Wednesday evening update

First off - I'm alone at the hotel while Damon is out watching a U of A basketball game. Are you surprised?! LOL he needs to get them in before I truly put the HAMMER down. Quite frankly my ankle needed rest tonight so he went on his own to see birthdad at the hospital and birthmom in the ICU. He took one for the team tonight and I'm crazy appreciative for that. Well so is he, he wants to make sure I'm up to speed when these twins get discharged.

SOOoooooo, good news and bad news. Good news - bmom is sitting up, awake and both Damon and I visited with her this morning!!!!! She is a little bummed about her condition but was happy to see us and know the babies are doing well. i tried not to cry when I told her how the babies basically took everything out of her. She told me not to make her cry because it hurt her insides. :-( But we know she knew that anyway. Smart cookie. Have I mentioned in the past few posts (other then the pictures, ha) how amazing she is?!

More good news - Damon and I are basically infatuated with Michael and Carmel...their names seem to be evolving into Mike and Melly (love that one) but we will see. I think Damon wants to create his own name for our Carmel that he gets to call her; his own special Daddy name.

OOoooo...blogging is such hard work I'm not even giving you the good good news. We were informed by someone in the nursery today that they BOTH might ready for discharge tomorrow. EXCITING! but....with bmom and her condition, they don't know when she'll be ready to sign her papers and we continue to make sure we respect and care for her needs and do what we are supposed to do. If we end up being able to take them back to the extended stay hotel (likely) it would be temporary and not the the paperwork that allows us to take her home to California.

As always thanks for everyones support. we are still trying to keep this blog to immediate friends and family. We have both posted our deepest emotions and feelings and this was never meant to be a public forum. As most of you probably already received a phonecall or email from us this is still the private Hubbart forum (LOL) . We thank you in advance for respecting our privacy.

another video from yesterday

Somehow I duplicated the other one and I have a tough time with Damon's laptop.

Baby Michael

Michael burping

Handing off michael

Check out Carmel crying!!

Melly eating

A new cell phone holder

Damon was on his earpiece.

How about some video!!?!?

I don't remember which is which, but they are both mostly of Carmel from yesterday. She was fussy and interesting so I took some video. At the end of one, I pan to Michael, but he isn't doing much. ENJOY!!! - Stephanie :-)

We changed our first diapers!!

LOL

Carmel is eating better, Michael is still eating well. Carmel also
found her voice (crying)! Is this a good thing?

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

Evening update

We received wonderful news that birthmom is off the ventilator. She
even was able to call her husband from the hospital! They will
continue to monitor her in the ICU and if she stays good she will move
into her room!!! Such relieving news.

It's visiting hours again in the ICU so we are here to see birthdad
and I will go in and see her.

The first time I saw her this morning through tears of emotion I
expressed our love for her. I told her how strong she was and how much
we appreciated her and that we had the entire west coast praying for
her. She had tears in her eyes and would nod her head.

Today we have spent more time with the babies. They are so precious
and beautiful!! Carmel is a fussy eater and will need to put on a
little weight before she could be released. Michael is eating great
and could be possibly ready to leave the hospital first. We won't know
when we can take them to the hotel until birthmom is ok and coherent.

Hope everyone is well. Thank you so much for all of your well wishes
and prayers.

Another action shot

This is happening right now. Hehe

In the nursery right this second!

Michael likes to look at his sister

I got video of her squirming. Will post when I can

Cuties

I'm feeding my Michael!

:-)

Monday, November 30, 2009

A Surreal Day

To all our friends and family ... thank you.

Today was one of the most unique days of our lives. We have ridden a roller coaster of joy and pain.

We welcomed our children into the world and lived a nightmare with the family who brought them into it.

As of late tonight on the east coast the birthmother is still critical. The Doctors are cautiously optimistic as their efforts to stem her internal bleeding were successful after a long day of multiple surgeries. We are hopeful, it will be her last. She is not yet out of the woods and more will be evaluated tomorrow. Please continue to keep her and her husband and family in your prayers. Her Husband has been a rock throughout this for his family and for us. We can not express how much love we have for him and her.

We appreciate everyone's vigilance in tracking her progress. We will repay that with more updates tomorrow.

The joy has been our "JOY" and "BLESSING". Both Michael and Carmel are doing so well. We could not be more stoked! Both babies are eating well, especially Carmel who is now trying to catch up with Mike for taking all of her food for the last 3 weeks! Great Great news.

Love to everyone.... talk to you soon.

Stephanie and Damon

Little Carmel

She kind of looks like a Sharpei! Heading back to the hospital to sit
with birthdad while birthmom is in surgery again. Prayers needed for
her.

Damon feeding Michael

Michael also an hour old

Sleeping just like a boy

Carmel's first bath

She was about an hour old here.

Michael

Carmel

Damon holding Carnel

Birthmom back in surgery. She is bleeding again :-(

Update

We have not held the babies yet, we have been sitting with birthdad.

First photo

The wait


For those of you furiously checking our blog, here is a photo of the
view from the waiting room at the hospital. S is going into surgery now.

In typical dramatic Stephanie fashion, last night we were walking out of the mall and I didn't see the curb, hit the deck, and twisted my ankle.  So now I'm hobbling around the hospital.  Just call me gimpy.

Sunday, November 29, 2009

I forgot to mention

North Carolina is absolutely beautiful!!

Sunday activities

We met with the birthfamily last night.  They are extremely nice, gracious and really wanted to get to know us better.  We sat with them for over 2 hours at a Cici's pizza.  Of course I was too nervous to eat, I probably drank a gallon of Diet Coke, though!  We hung out with their children who are very happy kids and they are great parents. We were honored that they let us meet their children.

We did a little more shopping this morning.  We went to the quietest Costco we've ever encountered!!  Was it because it is Sunday and people are at church or is Wal-Mart the Sunday shopping of choice?  I even let Damon buy us Chef Boyardee - I haven't eaten that since college.  LOL

I'm going to go get a massage here in a bit - my last one for a while, I'm guessing.  Then we'll go watch the Chargers game.  Did we mention that our hotel is next door to one of the few non-smoking sports bars and a nice mall?  Kismet.

It's going to be a long evening!  Less then 24 hours can you believe it.

Saturday, November 28, 2009

Setteled in our Temporary home

We are settled in at the extended stay, stocked with the essentials... turkey, bread, apples, diet coke and bottled water.

We have done a recon of the hospital and were able to meet with some nurses and an on call social worker.

We will have dinner with the Birthfamily tonight and then it is back to waiting for Monday morning.

Bear Down and Beat ASU!

Friday, November 27, 2009

I miss coco already

On the plane. We are really leaving.
Oh my.

Thursday, November 26, 2009

It's Thanksgiving!

Our first Thanksgiving either of us have not spent with any of our families.  And honestly, we missed all of you, but we have been so busy with our preparations, we have not had a moment to dwell on it.  Thank you to Sandra and Gabe for welcoming us into their home.  Sandra's sister in law cooked an AMAZING thanksgiving meal.

We are both just a bundle of nervous energy and wonder if we will be able to sleep tonight.

As always thank you to all of you for all of your love and support.  We'll continue to keep you all updated.

With all our love!

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

... and we're scheduled!

Hi - I guess it's time to join the blogging club.  Why let Damon have all the fun?

The cesarean section has been scheduled for Monday morning, December 30.  We will fly out on Friday morning to North Carolina.  We'll get to spend some time with the birth family getting to know them better.

Please keep us in your prayers for the safe delivery of our babies and the health of the birthmom who has come to mean so much to us.  While our joy is great, she and her husband will have deep feelings of grief and loss.  We will be constantly thinking of them.

Wish us safe travels and passage to Raleigh, NC!!

We can't believe its finally here...it has been a whirlwind and yet has felt like time has stood still all at the same time.

Love,
Stephanie

Monday, November 23, 2009

I am now a Blogger...I wonder if I can monetize this deal

This blogging thing is interesting. I assumed everyone could post... but alas they can only comment. Nice. We rule the realm.

I am starting to understand why Amy likes this. Total control (except of course for my better half) who will likely edit my posts.

UPDATE: NO Update HAHAHAH :-)

HI ALL

SURPRISE. Welcome to our Blog.... I know this is a bit of a shocker.

We are very excited and have been urgently putting our lives in order the past couple of weeks.

We will try to keep you updated on our progress as we move along the next couple of weeks.

Right now we are waiting on word from the OBGYN to schedule the delivery. We will update everyone then..may be a day or so. We expect it to be early next week.